The Avoidability Spell


Community Centre. 10 Ayr Street, Oban, Stewart Island

  6:30 pm - 8:30 pm

  14 October 2019


How to get, (and keep) the life you deserve

You CAN re-programme communication and ditch old patterns in yourself and others – FOR GOOD.  You are a CREATOR – your ‘word is your wand’.

Every thought, every word, has a consequence, a ripple effect. What are you creating? Where are you living? In dark energy (negativity, passive aggressive, gossip, whingey, statements) or light energy (speak your truth compassionately, don’t look away or enable it, positivity, graciousness, patience)

Everyone has communication pain points.

  • Things that don’t work for you and yet somehow you still end up doing them. 
  • Things, people, situations or environments that ‘ping’ you.
  • Opportunities missed every day at the point of impact/ground zero.
  • You don’t get the result you want – or no result at all
  • People seem really upset at your behaviour, and you don’t know why?
  • No one will ‘give’, and you don’t know what to do next?
  • You invited in certain things and now don’t know how to get rid of them.
  • The ‘new normal’ SUCKS. It’s draining, exhausting, frustrating.
  • You don’t want to ‘rock the boat’, someone else will say something surely?


This is a short, yet impactful talk about how staying in the moment and being self-aware will help you avoid communication issues. It will encourage you to fight the ‘norms’ which could be your problem and think about what you invite in, what you accept, and what you send out to the world.

Compassionately assertiveness is a truly magical communication style.


The only ‘spell’ you’ll ever need to get the life you deserve!

Steph Holloway is New Zealand’s leading body language and communication expert. She has worked with over 1,200 businesses and 10,000 individuals globally since founding Elemental Potential in 2012. She describes herself as a ‘Results Based Business’, with an aim to heal, inspire and educate…and it usually happens in that order.

Her coaching is based on a model of compassionate assertiveness (which she created the world’s first practical model for in 2011), non-verbal communication techniques, and corrective coaching. This model is now used by people all over the world. It’s a simple methodology that helps manage people with ease, creates harmonious workplace culture, and revives performance. It works fast, sticks, and gets results!

She is taking her latest talk The Avoidability Spell around the world in 2020.

This event is a fundraiser for Halfmoon Bay School in Oban, Stewart Island.  50% of proceeds go to the school.

(Steph is teaching the students at the school compassionate assertiveness.)

Thank you to Real Journeys, Halfmoon Bay for sponsoring this trip for the second year running. My work on the island is very important to me, and I appreciate their support.