Reap Central Plateau
6:00 pm - 8:00 pm
4 October 2018
My passion and deep interest lies in the art of uncovering why certain people communicate in a certain type of way. I’ve spent almost eight years re-educating people with aggressive and passive-aggressive communication styles that it’s not clever, and people don’t like it! The people who bear the brunt of this are often the passives of the world.
This is a short, fun, uplifting talk with Steph Holloway, about what it means to be passive as a communicator, how it could be holding you back, and what you can do about it.
Does this sound like you?
Are you over being passive and playing it small?
Are you happy with your level of confidence?
Do you find yourself people pleasing – saying yes when you really mean no?
You indulge in ‘Tall Poppy syndrome’ – it is a REAL thing in NZ. It diminishes us as individuals, and as a country.
You avoid eye contact and your body language is ‘small’.
You think you need others approval before you do anything. You are seen as a ‘people pleaser’ and often the requests get more frequent and larger. In the workplace you often get given tasks that a more assertive person would question doing.
If the other person doesn’t agree with you, you are prepared to change YOUR mind.
You use ‘invisible’ communication such as: “If you have a moment” “Would it be possible” “I hate to be a bother, but could you” “I don’t like bringing it up, but I need to”.
You belittle yourself and talk yourself down. You are the king or queen of the ‘humble brag’ – “Yes, I won the award, but anyone could have done it. It’s no big deal really”. You use self-criticism – “I should have known I’d stuff that up, I always do”. Self -depreciate – “Could I be anymore needy?”
It’s easier than you think to change your communication style – get working on your personal alchemy. Ready?