People need a coach for multiple reasons – but one of the most common is to deal with difficult emotions. Emotions when unvoiced, unheard, become a tangible and every day thing causing anxiety and stress and damage relationships of all types.
Children caught up in this often end up with baggage marked “pre-conditions’ that they carry through their life too and so it continues – the ‘gift’ that doesn’t stop giving.
How can you help yourself?
A great coach will not judge, or make assumptions about you. They will also not offer advice. The difference between counselling (past oriented) and coaching (future facing) is significant.
A great coach will instead, help you to explore – asking the right questions, and leading you to identify what is next for you. They will also keep you accountable, and help you to feel fulfilled and inspired with your life.
A great coach will explain to you that you don’t need to fix everything yourself, that you are allowed to express your feelings if you feel pushed out or under-valued.
They will help you reference influences or influencers from your past, without it holding you back from your future. They will enable you to machinate against the unholy trinity – shame, guilt, and worth. Stop procrastinating, whilst reviewing and reflecting before making decisions. Regain confidence, cope with change, and comes to terms with new realities. They will help you become unstuck in areas of your life that you acknowledge you need movement.
You exist as an individual who deserves, and can expect as your birth right to live an exhilarating, and joyful life.
Don’t settle. Ever.